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  Does Anyone Know Anything About a New Request for Black Sisters at Bethel?

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cur3jfect5a.

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  it suggests that the gb has asked black sisters to go natural with their hair..

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  I think straightened hair on black women looks unnatural. I admire their naturally curly hair and I think an afro looks great.
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  My son was murdered today

  by truman in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have been on this site daily, almost from its beginning, since i left the jws in 2001, but i have been more of a reader than a poster, as you can see from my post count.

  i know few here know me, although i know many of you through reading your posts.

  maybe it is not right to ask for support, when i generally stay quietly in the background of this forum, but i want only to speak a human misery of the deepest kind.

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  The detatchment, the lack of energy, and of course the crying is all part of the grieving process. Please don't be too hard on yourself. Take each day as it comes, even each hour if you have to.

  (((Truman)))
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  Holidays

  by Flat_Accent in

  1. jw
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  now it's been a good 8 months since i told my parents i no longer considered myself a jw.

  things have settled down to an extent but the hurt is still there - they think i'm going to die and as such are overly concerned for my safety.. in november i met a gal online and we've kept contact.

  a few months ago we decided i would come to visit her for a week.

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  Have fun!!
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  A death in my family (JW funeral)

  by fade_away in

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  2. experiences

  for the first time in my life i have lost someone close to me that i loved very much.

  my brother died last week of an asthma attack.

  i just got back from the funeral that was held yesterday.

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  ((((Fade_away))))

  ((((truman))))

  I agree with Billy's words - enjoy life now, and make the most of every moment. We never know what is around the corner - live so that hopefully you'll live a long life, but live without regrets too. Love those around you, enjoy what you have, seek to learn more. Regardless of if there's an afterlife or not, enjoy the life you're living now.
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  still thinking

  by N.drew in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  do you never worry that with your persistent harping and complaining about people who are differnet than you you might discourage people of faith from coming to jwn?.

  i do not follow you around every thread to criticize you.

  maybe you should grow up..

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  I'd never use "still thinking" and n.drew in the same sentence, if you get my drift...
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  To Attend or Not Attend JW Relative Funeral - Experiences You've Had ?

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was moved to put this thread out after talking to a board member here who was treated very disrespectfully from her jw family after her own husband died.

  my question isn't trying to pigeonhole anybody or i'm not saying there's a right or wrong answer - the question is designed to just openly discuss the negatives and positives of going to a jw funeral or not, and the implications or ramifications for doing so or not.. i believe it's definitely a personal decision based on different circumstances for each individual.

  for example : let's say a person is an inactive jw and they were sexually abused or treated in other inhumane ways by still active jw relatives .

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  Good thread topic.

  In my experience, I attended my father's funeral a couple of years ago. Most of the congregation did now know me but they seemed to assume I was a Witness (!) even though I left more than a decade ago. I'm not da'd nor df'd so there were no problems there.

  The talk was a pain to sit through, but I attended the funeral simply out of respect for my father as I felt it was my duty to be there. There were a lot of family politics to deal with due to step-family, but we managed to get through it.

  I think if you keep the mentality that you are there to do a job (bury your parent or relative) and try to keep emotions re JWs out of it as far as possible. Reflect on the person's authentic personality and any happy memories you have of them. Try not to let other people's comments get to you. After all, you are the grieving family member. Ignore stupid comments and concentrate on getting through the day.

  Of course, there will be the natural grieving process to deal with and there's no right or wrong in that regard. Just allow yourself to grieve if you need to. If you don't think the JW funeral gave proper reference to your family member's life, then hold something seperate, even a personal memorial for yourself. Light a candle, lay some flowers at the grave if there's one, plant a tree, have a beer at their favourite pub. What I did, in agreement with my JW sister, was play a song from one of his favourite singers at the gravesite while his coffin was being lowered. It was our way of saying goodbye with a personal touch.

  Not everyone will have the same experience as I, because all of us are in different circumstances, but think of it as a funeral first, and a JW event second, and try your best to get through it.
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  Life After Escape!

  by StephanieH in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so it has been about a year and a half since i left the jw's, it has been a long hard road but my life is finally great!

  i have actually had several recent magor changes in my life but i feel the peace in which i have been searching for.

  i just spent a month with my mom which was nice even though it didn't go as planned it was good to get to know her a little better.. i actually just moved back to the town i left so that i could be with my mom who is the only family i have left that excepts me.

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  It's always good to hear a (mostly) happy story!
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  I went to the ASSembly

  by MrFreeze in

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  2. friends

  i didn't think i'd ever have a reason to go back to the assembly but my sister was getting baptised so i told her i would go.

  i would still like to keep on decent terms with my family who is still in.

  otherwise, i would have said no.. there were only a five people that got baptised (four kids and one elderly person).

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  LOL @ Billy the Ex's comment

  When I was fading, I was at the baptism of a young bro that I knew well, he was only about 14 when he got baptised. I quietly told his younger sister, "Don't feel pressured to get baptised just because your bro did. Do it because YOU want to do it, not because anyone makes you feel you have to do it." I'm happy to report she didn't get baptised and is living a happy life outside the JWs!

  MrFreeze, your sister is a very lucky young lady to have you. Getting baptised at such a young age is going to put IMMENSE pressure on her as she grows during her teens, but at least she has you on her side.
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  consider this folks

  by maccauk11 in

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  2. friends

  there is no church any more.

  there is no sin only the works of the flesh.

  jesus put an end to it all at the cross.

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  You need to use paragraphs. One large paragraph is impossible to read.
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  How To Learn A Second Language, Ideas, Thoughts On Which To Learn?

  by Bubblegum Apotheosis in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  no doubt there are polyglots on jwn, what do you think the best language to learn is?

  spanish, french, german, tagalog or?????.

  what language did you find most diffucult to learn, does anyone speak hindi, farsi, arabic or any asian languages?

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  Choose one that interests you, or one that you can use sometime in the future, either for work or travel. If it's one you're interested in, or have a reason for learning, you'll persevere with it when you may feel like giving up on other other languages.

  I studied French and German at school, with an emphasis on French. Although I've never had to use it in real life, it's stuck with me. Maybe ONE day I'll get to Paris.

  The most difficult are Hungarian, Finnish and other languages from that family. I'd put asian and Indian based languages up there too, because they don't use the alphabet like we do. So not only would you have to learn a new language, but a new alphabet as well.

  I think Spanish or Italian would be easiest, because they are based on the latin language, like English. But if there's a country you'd really like to visit one day, then go and learn the language. It makes travel far easier when you can say more than "Hello" in their language.

  edited to add: I didn't see the other thread before replying to this one.

  One more piece of advice: Don't accept just any teacher of the language. Ask what qualifications they have, and how long they've been teaching. Ask to speak to other students to get their feedback. A good teacher won't mind you doing this.